How to Be Happy Every Day.

 

*Disclaimer: This post is not intended to serve as counseling or therapy for issues beyond self-help. If you or someone you know, is having a mental or emotional crisis, I strongly recommend professional help by visiting the U. S. Department of Health and Human Services website at www.samhsa.gov, or you can call or text 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to immediately speak with a counselor. ❤️ 

How to be happy every day. Is it possible? 

Life is a gift. It is meant to be experienced to the best of our abilities.  That means it is in our best interest to learn how to be happy every day. We feel the most productive and capable when we are happy. Therefore it makes perfect sense to want happiness all the time.

 

But attempting to be happy every day no matter what… Is it possible?

Sounds like rubbish. Because in truth, some days you’ll feel like crap, and sometimes it’s best to just roll with that. Being happy every day sounds good in theory but it’s highly impractical.

If you thought this was going to be one of those ” Everything is always unicorns and rainbows if you make it” type of post, then you will be disappointed.

Instead of all that, I’m going to tell you how to cope with real life accordingly. 

 

Life has a way of smacking the &#*! out of you.

 

 

Life is love, joy, wonder, and mystery. It can be thrilling in a terrible way or scary in a funny way.  With our emotions playing a leading role,  there are numerous combinations of how we perceive life. 

The excitement of living comes with a hefty price. Dealing with unwanted changes, sadness, letdowns, fear, anger, and much more isn’t for the faint of heart. Once you involve other people in this volatile mix, things can get ugly. And for some, it stays that way.

Life is what you make it.

Happiness is optional. This means it is mostly up to you to choose to be happy.  However, there will be times when you just don’t feel good. That is a part of life. If it weren’t, we wouldn’t know the difference between what makes us happy and what doesn’t.

As I mentioned earlier, this isn’t a sugar-coated post designed to give you a false outlook on happiness.  I’ll have you know the truth. There will be dark, gloomy days. Some of which are universal and there’s nothing that can change that.  Those are the times to just roll with it until it passes. 

 

How to be happy every day. There are ways to make yourself feel better.

Although it’s highly impractical to be happy every moment of every single day, there are ways to help you get through unhappy days. 

Happiness is understanding you have the right and ability to choose to be happy. So, for this to work out, you must want to be happy to allow yourself to choose happiness.

 

 

First, acknowledge the emotion you’re feeling.

Sadness. Anger. Guilt. Disappointment. Worry. Exhaustion. What do you feel?  Maybe you feel more than one emotion that is causing a lack of happiness. 

Acknowledging what you feel is a step closer to being in high spirits again. Empaths or highly sensitive people must be extra careful not to mistake the feelings of others as their own.

 

 

Second, find the cause.

Job loss. Outstanding bills. Fight with a friend or family member. Denied application. Stressing over a deadline. Juggling too many responsibilities. Death of a loved one. What is the cause?

It could be many things at once. Sometimes my emotions get so haywire, that I feel like I’ll short-circuit if you say one more thing to me!  Pinpointing the events that stirred up these negative emotions will help you get through them.

If there happens to be more than one, divide them in half. One list of things you can do something about and the other you cannot. 

For the list of things you can’t fix or change, verbally say it aloud or write it down. Telling yourself that there’s nothing you can do about the problem allows you to let it go.   Believe it or not, all things work out in the end. Even if that means something changed because of the original problem.

If you believe there is something you can do, but you don’t know what that is, tell yourself or write down that you do not have a solution to that problem right now. This will help you to move it to the back burner until you are in a better mental space to come up with something. Many times stepping away clears the mind of the situation. This helps new ideas surface when we come back to the issue.

 

 

 

Third, experience the emotion.

The natural reaction to emotional pain is to feel it. Remember when you were a kid and you cried about something or another? Have your parents ever told you to shut up crying and straighten your face? Instead of allowing us to experience the bad emotions (at least with a pout) and get over them, most of us were taught to immediately whisk them away.

Now as adults, we will hide, deny and even lie about how we feel. Even though negative emotions are not favored, it is important to feel them, process them, and release them.

When you feel down, the best way to get back to happiness is to purposely feel down. This probably doesn’t sound right, especially when your goal is to feel the opposite of bad. But trust me, the negative feelings won’t go away until you acknowledge them fully. 

 

 

Fourth, pray for assistance. 

Got faith? Nothing works better than a little prayer. This is one of my go-to’s. Honestly, sometimes I’m too far gone from happbeing y that I can’t think rationally. I’m about ready to bleep blank and blankety bleep! You know how that goes. This means I can’t ask myself what I’m feeling or what’s the problem because I’m passed pissed. 

When you’re in this space, take a few long, deep breaths and ask God for the fastest way to calm down. Give thanks for staying sane enough to pray about it. Continue to “talk it out” with your angels until you’re all done. If you talk/pray aloud as I do, you may look insane instead, but it’s worth it.

Speaking of insane. . .  😏 

Fifth, bring in the heavy artillery, seek help.

Yes, I said it. Get some help! If you find yourself mentally and/or emotionally stuck, it is okay to get professional help.  Too many people in the United States alone are given the impression that seeking counseling or therapy is strictly for the wackos and crazy people.

Unfortunately, ignoring your mental health only makes attempting to be happy every day unfathomable. It also minimizes your chances for full mental stability and recovery in the future. 

Sad to say, many mentally ill individuals began as normal people with too many irons in the fire. Also, becoming overworked and stressed out is a common catalyst for substance and alcohol abuse. “Going crazy” is a real thing but so many people tend to suppress the signs. 

There is nothing wrong with venting to your friends or your mama. However, realize that everyone you talk to isn’t going to tell you the truth about your situation. Furthermore, if you’ve tried their advice and it hasn’t worked, consider speaking to someone who can actu you. 

 

What if there is no reason?

Universal drag.

Ever been down and you know you have no real reason for it? That is due to shifts in the universe. You know the old saying ” It’s just one of those days.”  Sometimes it truly is just one of those days. And days that are universally dragging can be lifted with a few of my favorite ways to be at peace when the whole world is low. 

 

Seek Solitude.

Believe it or not, many of us need an effing time out.  Just like toddlers and older kids, we can get overwhelmed and irritated. This combination can easily make us unhappy with whatever is going on, especially if other people are involved.

When things start to bother me, it seems like everything and everybody starts to get on my ever-loving nerves! Let’s not talk about working with a sliver of energy! If I can get away from it all, for just a minute, I do that. If not, try asking everybody to take a time out.

You can be subtle and say “Hey, I need a break. Does anybody else want to take a break?”. This should get you the time you need to get away or it allows everyone to wind down. Win-win honey!

                                 Solitude matters, and for some people, it’s the air they breathe. Susan Cain

 

Pray. 

Here I say it again. Nothing works better than a little prayer. Due to shifts in the universe, there’s no way we are in control of what’s happening on a universal level. Therefore, prayer is a much easier remedy because only God controls all that we don’t. 

Take five minutes, even if it means locking yourself in the bathroom. Pray that you get through the day to the best of your ability. Ask for tips that will help lighten your mood and be thankful for remaining stable enough to communicate with the Creator in such a dismal headspace.

 

 

Relax.

Yes, I believe we have these types of days to remind us to sit down and chill.  We are busy little bodies that are constantly on the move. When we encounter days when we just don’t feel like doing anything, it’s our body’s way of telling us to get some rest. I say just go with it and do nothing (if you can of course).

If you must do things (like taking care of small children, mandatory work meetings, homework, walking the dog, etc.), then don’t do anything extra. Save all of your energy for the important tasks when days are gloomy and tiring.

But if you can afford to put it off, by all means, put that s!&# off!  Step away from that work, relax and enjoy whatever you’re into until you feel refreshed and rejuvenated. This will help bring the happy mood back to the forefront. 

 

Have fun.

When is the last time you had fun? Not the occasional joking at work or laughing at silly memes. I mean some serious, no holds barred fun. Sometimes when we’re overworked and overstressed, our mood can be a little bitchy. Okay, okay a lot bitchy!  So you know what that means.

 

Plan a few hours, a whole day, or an entire week and get some fun, exciting activities in action. Having fun is usually a quick long-lasting boost for feeling happy.

 

When you’re in a bad mood, happiness can appear to have abandoned you. And in the event of major loss or bad news, it can seem like happiness has packed its bags and officially moved out!  

When this happens, we may not always be able to control our emotions but we can control our thoughts with practice and focus.  Just remember there are always ways to get yourself back on the happy train. It will take practice and it will take determination but happiness can come back around.

 

Final Thought

I hope this post was helpful to you on your mission to be happy every day. Setting intentions to be happy truly makes a difference.

I sincerely encourage you to try these out, keep moving forward, and do what works for you. Good luck and thanks for reading!