Female Power: 5 Ways It's Used And Abused

Female Power

Everyone has the power within. Here you’ll find female power: five ways it’s used and abuse by women daily. This planet is adorned with wonderful natural creations including the race of men. Without female counterparts, reproduction would be absent. Therefore there wouldn’t be a population of people. All this means is women are important to the planet. Not just for reproductive purposes but for biological and energetic balance as well.

So just for the woman’s important role in nature, we are given special gifts that set us apart from men. These gifts are showcased through our unique individual influence called female power.

What is Power?

There are quite a few definitions of power but in this article, I’m going to focus on one.

Power is defined as the possession of control, authority, or influence over others. This means anybody can have power and men have possessed power over women for centuries.

This feminine influence or female power can be used in a positive manner such as parenting children to become successful adults, encouraging others to do and be their best, or even as a guide for keeping others safe. On the other hand, female power is often abused by women who want to be in control or manipulate people for unjustified and selfish reasons.

Women on the rise

Men have always been in the power seat. They have controlled everything from finances, property, political and legal rights, even ownership of their wives. Meanwhile, women were forced to go along with whatever men had set up for them and it really didn’t matter if they liked it or not.

Today, women have more freedom. And we are thriving.

5 Ways to use your female power

5. Don’t compare yourself to other women.

“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.” -Iyanla Vanzant

Authenticity is a real power source. According to the rules of social media’s idea of beauty and perfection, many women fall prey to the copycat syndrome. There’s nothing wrong with being fashionably trendy but, God made all of our appearances different for a reason. Just know, your beauty is your OWN and there’s no one else like you. Therefore, comparisons are a waste of time.

4. Confidence is golden.

Life takes sour turns and we all have been sick from the ride in some way or another. Unfortunately, that sickness can stick with us, causing our faith within ourselves to diminish. But no matter what those reasons are, many of us just don’t know how to be confident!

However, knowing who you are and knowing your worth is great confidence reinforcement. Having confidence within yourself is acknowledging the feminine power that flows in and all around you.

3. Compliment yourself often, even when you don’t feel physically attractive.

Ever have the feeling you can’t leave the house without make-up or have your hair done?

It’s OKAY! Now I’m not telling you to run outside with a sleep bonnet on your head and crust in your eyes. However, making sure your hair is neat (or fashionably covered), your face is clean and your clothes are presentable is a major power factor for realizing you are more than just looks.

With that said, female power comes from knowing that you’re a quality individual with a sound mind, a good heart, and a great personality. That’s right, still hot even without all the glam! Go ahead, flaunt the natural beauty that shines from the inside out.

2. Embrace creativity in your own way.

Women are nature’s original creators. We have been given the power to grow and give birth to children. That is one of the most powerful tasks that a woman can survive through. After all, Mother Nature is referred to as Mother isn’t she?

What makes you feel creative? Is it dancing to your favorite song or inventing your own style? Perhaps it’s a unique tagline you use on all your memos at work. Whatever it is, let it ride and your female power intuition will take over.

1. Be the woman you want to be, not who you are expected to be.

Yes, this relates to number 5 in some ways but is much deeper than comparison. In addition to not being authentic, some women are expected or told to behaive a certain way. They have been given a way of life (whether they like it or not) instead of choosing a way of life that fits the best.

Of course, life can hand us a great big basket of lemons. But instead of pouring lemon juice into your open wounds, make lemonade and drink up! You are in charge of your own life, including happiness. Female power is at its strongest when you are the woman you want and are meant to be.

How is female power abused?

“With great power comes great responsibility.” is what Spiderman/ Peter Parker’s Uncle Ben told him before he died. This is one of the truest statements I’ve come to know. Many people want power for all the wrong reasons. Those wrong reasons can lead to the abuse of power. This happens a lot in the workplace and in personal relationships. In turn, nobody likes a power-hungry control freak. And if you’re not careful, you can easily misuse your female power.

5. Playing the “damsel in distress” with an ulterior motive.

Using your female power can have advantages. But when you use those advantages at the expense of others, you are now abusing your power.

For example, women at work (especially those with manual labor positions and/or predominately male coworkers) purposely complain the workload is “too hard” to their male coworkers. As a result, the man falls victim to the female power and does their work for them. Meanwhile, the woman gets full pay for someone else’s labor.

Let the tables turn and a man can’t use the same tactics to get male OR female coworkers to do his job!

This act alone contradicts the very fairness that women seek when it comes to being compared to men. Sorry ladies but you can’t have it both ways! Therefore, to pretend that you are “weak and helpless” just to get out of doing what you’re paid to do is a form of female power abuse.

4. Claiming “Women Power” only when it’s convenient.

Most women naturally have close friendships. This includes gravitating towards other women in the workplace. But there are some women who don’t seem to get along with even the friendliest of women. Talk about office drama! Anyway, banning together screaming women’s power when it’s convenient is abusing female power.

For instance, let’s say a male supervisor is managing his team of workers with equal amounts of work to everyone. All of a sudden, the meanest group of women in the place become “BFFs” just to protest against “all of the work” they have to do.

This puts some male supervisors in a mentally confusing state of mind simply because of how easily women threaten to file complaints in the name of inequality.

On the other hand, if a male coworker complained about doing the work all the time, his counterproductive attitude would be the hottest topic during lunch break.

This act shows more phoniness than a pair of eyebrows on Whoopi Goldberg. This means the less genuine behavior displayed, the more this is abusing what female power and respect are actually about.

3. Using PMS and monthly cycles to justify being a b!+@#.

As a woman, I’ve known “Aunt Flow”, or bluntly put “the period”, for many years and it’s never been pleasant preparing for her arrival. Becoming irritated by the pettiest things, craving ridiculous quantities of meat or chocolate, and wanting to stay in bed and be left alone forever becomes a norm that can last as long as two or three weeks each month!

However, I’ve noticed that some women are literally waiting for that time of the month to justify being rude and obnoxious. Unfortunately, some women are like that all the time, and the “period week” is treated as some right of passage!

Even though women may be more sensitive during that time of the month, the people around are not required to bow down and kiss toes just because a menstruating woman is screaming. Respect, decency, and above all, self-control, are still necessary when it comes to dealing with others, especially close friends and family. Therefore your period is no excuse for rude and unladylike behavior, a real female power abuse tactic this is.

2. Flirting with male coworkers to get them to do their jobs.

Women are by far the initial standard of beauty and sexy. It’s no wonder so much female power can come from one wink and bold body language. Unfortunately, that exact sex appeal has escalated horrendous situations involving the value and morale of women in general.

Flirting with male coworkers in the hopes of softening them to do your work, may seem harmless. Especially because most men welcome flirting from female coworkers. However, flirting for this purpose is just as low as the men in the workplace expecting you to give up sex (or something of the like) just to get a promotion or a pay raise.

This one should bring much shame to all those who do it because women have come a very, very long way when it comes to equality in the workplace.

1. Abusing the law by attacking men.

Since the violence against women act was passed in 1994, women were no longer subject to abuse by men in their homes without police intervention. However, knowing that calling the police to report domestic violence usually resulted in the arrest of the man, some women have taken full advantage of this law for personal reasons.

Women have abused this protection by calling a man derogatory names, provoking him to fight, and physically putting hands on him, to get him to “break the law” so they can purposely get him sent to jail.

Men have become aware that it is a safety net that lots of women use to overpower men in a heated argument. Most men have even adopted the “walk away” or “leave the house” method just to avoid this devious setup. Many times have men been arrested under false pretenses simply because a woman “claimed” he hit her.

This point is number one on my list of how women abuse their power simply because to me, it’s the cruelest and most wicked act a woman can put on when it comes to dealing with their anger towards men.

Final Thoughts

I hope you found this information helpful. Women are amazing! However, nobody is perfect. Doing the best you can for yourself and the people around you is what female power is all about.

I sincerely encourage you to try it out, keep moving forward, and do what works for you. Good luck and thanks for reading!

Female Power: 5 Ways It’s Used And Abused